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Love Yourself

In motherhood, there are a plethora of stereotypes that are constantly talked about. One of the most common is the frumpy mothers, with messy hair, no makeup, baggy clothes who looks exhausted. As a mother, I can understand why this stereotype is completely and utterly true. I can also understand why this stereotype is offensive.
Understanding the life of a mom can be tough for those who have never been in the position. Imagine this: from the time you get up until the time you go to bed (and sometimes at night) you are constantly at the beck and call of your child. It doesn’t matter if there is only one or if you have multiples – it’s exhausting. My mistake was giving into the stereotype. Before I go on, let me state: I am in no way implying that if you indeed do take no care in your physical appearance that you are wrong. I am stating that I became so absorbed in being a mom that I forgot about myself. What does that mean? Let me elaborate. Like many things, motherhood requires a balance. Not only does it mean taking care of you child, but it means taking care of yourself too. I found out that there is only so much giving a person can do – without giving anything to yourself – before it all becomes too much.
It was during my husband’s deployment, about six months into it. I was caring for our two children by myself, without any assistance from anyone. I was with them 24/7, making them meals, dealing with tantrums, breaking up fights, cleaning up messes, and anything else they needed. It got overwhelming because I was not taking care of myself. I wasn’t sleeping well, I wasn’t eating right, I wasn’t showering, I wasn’t doing anything that I enjoyed and it took a toll. I was becoming angrier and edgier with both my husband (when we got to chat on the phone), with my friend, and worst of all with my children. Eventually, after confessing my depression to my mother and my husband, they recommended taking a bit of time every day to slowly take care of myself. It seems silly, but taking a shower or reading a book, even doing some yoga improved my mood greatly. I was a better mother for it, a better wife, a better friend, a better daughter, and an all-around better person. Always remember to take care of yourself. It’s a lesson that will apply throughout life and different situations. You have to be happy and healthy before you can do anything for anybody else.

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Posted on February 20th, 2014 by thinspell

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